For years, I have gathered Facebook Strangers and Unconnected Linkedin Connection.
I floated through these social media sites on a cloud, not realizing what a waste of time this was to accept every Friend or Connection without taking a moment to connect.
I know people that for years have used Linkedin or Facebook to connect with people and find viable business relationships in those connections. I was not that guy. As I explored this further, I found there were many people in the same shoes.
Then one day, on February 3rd, 2020, I had a fascinating interaction with a person that I sent a friend request to. Shortly after I sent him a friend request, I received a DM from him.
This was the DM…
“Hey, awesomer! Thanks for sending your request to me. Tell me: How did you find me?
But more important: How are you doing on this magnificent day? Love to hear from you!”
I responded, and he shared with me that he does not accept friend requests unless a person responds to his message. I love this idea. It requires a bit of effort, and you open with the connection of a conversation. I wish I would have thought of this a year ago. I would have a much more engaged group of friends here.
Taking this to the next level.. fixing my stranger list.
I began doing the same thing I found that the people that did not respond to me were people that would have filled up my News Feed and offered no value to me. In the process, I became protective of my News Feed. The problem was I already had 3,000 “friends” that I just let in the gate without a thought. I started to realize I was getting posts from people that I did not know and had nothing in common with.
So I took the idea to the next level and created a plan to clean up my News Feed and turn my “Friends” from strangers into actual Friends.
I created a new message, and each day, I send that message to 30 people on my News Feed that I do not know. I give them five days, and if they do not respond, I delete them as friends.
You may say, “Well, maybe they were not interested in the message you sent.” Exactly! That also means they are not interested in me; they want to be able to have me on their big friend list and throw shit against the News Feed and see what sticks.
They want to tell me about them continually and what they are selling, which is ok if we connect, and we both care. If we connect, I want to know what you are doing, and I want to support you.
Connecting with non-connections at Linkedin
Several months later, I realized the same thing about Linkedin. I had 1500 connections that I have never connected with.
I applied the same process to Linkedin. After sending 50 of the messages out, I waited one week. Some people responded right away. Some took a few days, and others ignored my message. The ones that ignored me were deleted. The ones that responded stayed and many of them ended up working with me.
So what has this done so far?
My newer, happier, healthier News Feed and Connections are now truly Friends and Connections.
Since I started spending 15 minutes a day, sending my message to strangers on my newsfeed at Facebook, and to my Connections at Linkedin, I have seen a massive difference in the value of these platforms to me. I went from 3000 “friends” to 1100 people that are becoming connections on Facebook. I went from 1500 no-connected people to 800 real connections on Linkedin. In the process, my business has exploded. (In a good way)
I still spend 15 minutes a day sending my message and deleting people that did not respond from 5 days ago. And it is getting better and better.
The best part is, by the end of this year, I will have connected at least one time with every friend and connection on my lists. I will have learned who they are and see how we can plus each other lives. If we have nothing in common, I do us both a favor by uncluttering my News Feed and Connection List and theirs as well.
These two platforms can have real value if you fill them with real connections. This 1 Habit of cleaning out and connecting can be game-changer for you. Just 1 Habit can change your life forever.
One last thing.
I want you to keep this in mind. When somebody shows up on your timeline or asks to connect with you on Linkedin, they are virtually walking into your home, sitting in your living room, and taking space from somebody else that you know and care about. You need to introduce yourself to these strangers at your party and see if you connect, or they should leave. It is that simple.
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